Dr. Evita Fernandez’s response on the article – “Can We Please Stop Telling Pregnant Women This?”

Original Article – “Can We Please Stop Telling Pregnant Women This?”

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I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant and have already lost track of the amount of times I’ve been told by people that ‘everything will be fine.’

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Can We Please Stop Telling Pregnant Women This? | The Huffington Post

Dr.EvitaDr. Evita Fernandez’s response on the article – “Can We Please Stop Telling Pregnant Women This?”
When I was a young obstetrician and not as wise as I am today, I often spoke these lines “don’t worry- everything will be fine” believing at the time that it was. Indeed the truth.

Today, I LISTEN very very carefully to the unspoken words of the young mother before me. I do my best to understand her fears and help her work through it all. I have learnt to believe in maternal instincts; learnt to listen to women when they express a fear repeatedly. I also know that a pregnancy can go horribly wrong. Sometimes there are tell-tale signs to warn and prepare both sides. Sometimes, one does not get the luxury of time to prepare for a loss or morbidity affecting the mother or her newborn.

It is important for us obstetricians to give women the freedom to ask questions, to clarify doubts no matter how small they may appear and more importantly, to LISTEN and become aware of the unspoken fears.

May this article help us understand a different perspective. May it induce us to reflect and initiate change wherever necessary.

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3 thoughts on “Dr. Evita Fernandez’s response on the article – “Can We Please Stop Telling Pregnant Women This?”

  1. What you say is very very correct and required for any pregnant women. But it does not happen always, sometimes doctors are annoyed to answer our quarries. Some times doctor has only one answer to every query that you come to Emergency, whatever may be the issue we tell to the doctor. Instead of asking in detail about the problem, doctor tells to come to emergency. That’s always not possible to come to emergency for every problem. Hope doctor will know about the problem and then advise to come to emergency. Sometimes advice over phone pr email may solve the problem.

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  2. Doctors at this hospital give utmost importance to pregnant women and they never refer a pregnant women as a patient and don restrict her from being normal. Preganant women is included in the decision making process and you would never hesitate to approach doctors at Fernandez. I feel blessed for having been associated with this hospital.

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    1. For any kind of issues (small or big) their doctors tell to come to Emergency without asking the details of the issue a woman is facing. There some issues which can be sorted out over phone by asking the details of the issue without forcing the woman to come to Emergency. They never think form the perspective of the woman. This is not acceptable. Rest are fine.

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